WHY DOES MY TWIN FLAME RUN FROM ME?

"The harder you push me, the further I will go."

This is a post that I have asked my divine masculine (DM) to please help me out with so that I can give the DM perspective on the effect it has on them when we divine feminine (DF) push them.

I have come across a lot of twin flames that are stuck in the runner chaser dynamic after the recognition and bubble love phase ends.

It is easy to get stuck in this runner chaser dynamic, when we are stuck in our 3rd dimensional (3D) view on relationships.

Yes you have just met the most important person in the world to you and you want to hold onto that with all of our might. And live happily ever after like you would in any other normal relationship.

Yes you have just learned that you share a soul with another and you treat the other as if the they are you and belong to you, because of the initial bond.

Having this response is normal because you want to treat this connection like it is any other 3D connection that you have ever had.  

But you can't, because this is not the nature of a twin flame connection. Your connection is divine and of a very, very high frequency which rids and repels any low vibration from it.

When crisis hits after the bubble love phase it is because it is time to get cracking on your healing so that you can get rid of all of your lower frequencies so that you can be in union with your twin at the high frequency that your connection is.

The DF wants to keep reliving the bubble love phase when crisis has hit and healing needs to start. In doing this she is just prolonging the journey to union.

Both twins are triggered at this point of crisis. Both egos kick in and then separation occurs while you both should be dealing with your triggers and your pain and releasing old karma.

I have come to notice that in certain twin flame couples the DF seems to inundate the DM with questions and information and neediness, like she expects him to help her make sense of what she is going through or like she feels like she has to heal the DM and wake him up.

Co dependency patterns seem to kick in to the max here and the DF is trying to relive the glory days of the bubble love but is in turmoil and the turmoil repels the connection, and so the DM retreats. 

It needs to be understood that separation and the DM going into "passive retreat" or withdrawing from any deep contact is part of the soul contract in order to trigger healing. Just as the DF pushing at him to be all she wants him to be in that moment is triggering the hell out of the DM. 

The DM is giving energetically to the DF the opposite of how she is reacting. They reacting as polar opposites hence energetically creating balance to the mayhem.

The harder the DF pushes, the more passive the DM will become.

I also mean energetically!!! If the DF is energetically bombarding the DM he will pick it up the same way, because your twin responds to your energy! So even if you have stopped in 3D with asking and messaging, if you are still feeling it and thinking it, your twin is picking it up and stepping into the fog.

The DF needs to learn to be in the present moment and she needs to learn to stand in her own power and let go of the control on thinking that she has all the answers to their union and that she needs to help the DM to heal.

So ultimately when the DF pushes the DM she is pushing him away. She is turning him into an elusive butterfly that she is never going to catch because he is just backing off into the fog.

We know that it feels impossible to back off, but it is the only way you are going to strike harmony again between the two of you. Step into your own power and stop trying to take away the DM's power by thinking that he can't or won't heal himself.

If you can rather focus all that energy onto your own healing and trust that your DM is very, very capable of taking care of his own healing and awakening, you will get into a harmonious connection with your twin again much sooner rather than later. 

Wishing you abundant clarity and strength!

Twin Flame Healing

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THE REASON WHY TWIN FLAMES TRIGGER EACH OTHER

"Sometimes you just have to die a little inside in order to be reborn and rise again as a stronger and wiser version of yourself."

There are absolutely no mistakes in this world. 

EVERYTHING happens for a good reason and for your higher good. 

We grow and learn through adversity, and your twin flame is your biggest and best teacher that you will ever encounter in this life.

In order for twin flames to be in union, they have to shed their ego, and in shedding their ego they will be listening to their soul, and will be fully healing their soul and in healing their soul and shedding ego, they will be attaining the true and divine unconditional love which brings the twins into union.

This is by no means an easy task when it is not understood properly. 

When our twin does something and we have an ego reaction, ie: we feel hurt, offended, upset, angry, sad, rejected, abandoned... whatever our reaction is, it is because we have not healed a part of ourselves and our twin is very perfectly directing us to our healing. 

This is called a trigger. We are triggered when we are not grounded in our truth and are therefore in our ego.

A trigger has NOTHING to do with your twin and EVERYTHING to do with you.

Your twin only loves you, and your twin has not accumulated negative karma with you. What pain you feel is from elsewhere and that root needs to be uplifted not pushed onto your twin to make them responsible.

Blaming your twin for your pain is counter productive and all it will do is keep you in separation for longer. Your twin is there to help you heal yourself, not to do the job for you. They point you in the direction of your healing over and over again.

A trigger from your twin, is seriously the biggest blessing you can get, because each trigger that is dealt with and healed is a step closer to your inner freedom. 

To blame your twin for your past, will only push them further away from you and close them up, because they are here to first and foremost to be the catalyst to heal you and you are of course here to do the same for them.

My twin has had such a deep way of so easily and gently uprooting my deepest pain and cleansing these old wounds so that I can be whole and healed. 

I have come to embrace the lessons, healing and release from the triggers because it lets go of suffering for me and takes me one step further away from my ego and one step closer to self mastery. 

I am always amazed at how easily I have been triggered by my twin, when he really and truly does pretty much nothing. 

But something will go down and the next thing I am sucked down a wormhole of my past where I can see where the pain I am feeling was birthed, it is truly mind blowing!

You are not a victim when you are triggered and your twin is not responsible for the pain of your past.

Respect your twin enough to not make them your punching bag and appreciate them for the way they so innocently can trigger such deep pain to be released from you if you only allow it to.

The triggers are ONLY for your good! Be grateful that you have somebody who loves you so much that they have agreed to trigger healing to every part of your being!

What a blessing and a gift! 

Wishing you nothing but strength, clarity and endless love on your journey!

Twin Flame Healing

xxx

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WHAT IS A TWIN FLAME, HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOU ARE ONE AND HOW DO YOU FIND THEM?

"If you find me not within you, you will never find me. For I have been with you from the beginning of me." RUMI 

What is a twin flame?

A twin flame is a twin soul. Legend has it that in the beginning of creation some souls volunteered to help save humanity. They volunteered to split themselves in two, and go into two separate bodies, one masculine and one feminine and when humanity was falling apart and in need of rescuing those now twin souls, would come together in order to be a very powerful healing force to raise the vibration of the planet.

They chose the path and do not meet their twin soul in every incarnation. It is said that only one incarnates at a time and the other is a spirit guide and they swap the role of human and spirit guide through many, many incarnations.

They meet in 3D only in their last or second last incarnation. They only meet because it is time for them to fulfill their divine purpose, to get to work on being an incredibly high vibration and spreading that vibration to heal others and the planet.

A twin flame is a light-worker. On their own they are powerful beings of light and healers. Together that power is not doubled but it is magnified to the amount of the depth of the twin flames connection, which is beyond a human comprehension. It is deep.

How do you know if you are a twin flame?

You will have had an extremely hard life, from childhood through to present. Chances are that you are an earth angel.  

http://in5d.com/31-signs-youre-an-earth-angel-and-what-to-do-if-you-are/

You have learnt from life, not become bitter and twisted from it. You will have had a feeling in you from the time of early childhood that you have a twin out there. A complete stranger who will know you by just looking at you. (Yes it sounds weird, it all sounds weird actually, but it is what it is).

You have a radar that is always looking for the “one”, which is actually a radar looking for the twin. Chances are that you are interested in spirituality and drawn to personal growth.

I don’t actually think anyone knows that you are a twin flame until you learn that you are one through the experience of meeting your twin soul. It is kind of grey matter in your life and in the meeting of the twin all the grey becomes clear and it connects the dots and puts it all together for you.

How do you find your twin flame?

You don’t find your twin flame. You don’t search for a twin flame. You just meet. It is a divinely orchestrated plan, it is not some human romantic fantasy.

I think that the twin flame phenomena has been romanticized. It is something which is bringing in money for people and so they are riding it and preying on people desperate to find that one true love.

Yes it is a lovely notion to share a soul with another, but it is not about the romance. The twin flame connection is about personal healing, personal growth, personal transformation and awakening, then it is about service. This is such an important thing for people to know.

I believe that not everyone is a twin flame, no siree! The whole purpose of twin flames is to help heal the world and in order to do that you have to heal yourself first. In order to heal yourself, you have to be prepared to do a shit load of inner work, that is mostly shadow work, it is dark night of the soul stuff.

You have to have a very specific level of consciousness to be able to fulfill the purpose of being a twin flame. That being said, I think it is pretty obvious that very awakened souls and souls who are very open to awakening are the twin souls. Twin flames are not about falling in love and living happily ever after. It is a massive responsibility and an extremely hard journey.

Twin flames are here to serve humanity, not fulfill a need inside yourself to have a great love. Nothing about the connection is about yourself, in fact part of the “initiation” is losing your ego completely. (Although it is all about you, because you have heal and love yourself completely)

Twin flames can not come together in ego at all, 3D love is not a twin flame thing. It has to be an unconditional love of self and the other before it can be a union, and that is some serious soul work I am talking about here.

Statistically they say 1- 2% of the world's population is a twin flame, which is a lot of people considering how many people are on the planet. But it is a lot less than the romantic idea that we all have a twin flame.

So please people take all of the above into consideration before you fall in love with the romantic idea of being a twin flame. You could be missing out on the love you are meant to have, a nice soul mate connection. There is also plenty of growth and learning in those, but they are a walk in the park compared to the journey of the twin flames and mirror souls.

I have seen a lot of posts about twin flames shagging, it seems that the sexual connection is what people ride on, pardon the pun. The twin flame connection is about being a whole, healed human being who is capable of loving the entire universe and all of its inhabitants unconditionally. That is what it is about. It is not about having great sex and getting ego attached to another person who you can’t live without. IT IS ABOUT SERVICE!!!!!!

How do you know if you have met your twin flame?

You would not need to ask this question because you would know. There are a lot of similarities between twin flame experiences but ultimately when you can literally see your soul inside another person that is a pretty good indication.

That and many other things. The first contact is literally something out of a science fiction novel and you have to experience it to believe it. Twin flames generally have had a very similar life. Their life stories and experiences are like looking in a mirror.

You finish each others sentences, you have very similar tastes and preferences. Dreams that you are going to meet them is very common, (but at the time of the dreams you will have no clue that is what it is about.)

Chances are that you have just been introduced to the concept of twin flames by chance just before you meet.

Your radar to search for the one switches off after you meet. You just know that this human being is going to be in your life forever, not sure how or why, but you just know.

In fact you just know that you are what you are to each other. There is a feeling in the depth of your soul that you are finally home. Your whole life starts to make sense, like you can finally connect the dots.

You may have ascension symptoms, you can’t sleep after meeting, tingling over the head, ringing in the ears, burning in the heart chakra, crying often. Accelerated personal growth. The life lessons pour in. Overwhelming feeling of gratitude for the gift that has been given to you. Your psychic abilities awaken or are enhanced and develop deeper.

The initial meeting is absolutely magical. It really is like you have come home for the first time in your life. The comfort and ease is just amazing. When you away from each other you miss each other. Yes you miss a complete stranger. And somehow you just know that you absolutely love this human being and always have and always will…. And then a whole lot of other rather overwhelming things occur.

You become completely consumed with the other. To the point where you are no longer present in your life.There is an overwhelming energy in you that only seems to calm down if you are in each other's company, but when you separate this all consuming fire burns within you that you can’t seem to control.

The only solution seems to be to unplug from the other twin so that you can get some focus and be present in your life again. 9 times out of 10 twins meet but their life’s circumstances are not conducive to a relationship with the other. They are either in a relationship with someone else or live on separate sides of the world, or have some bizarre reasons why being together is impossible.

So when the overwhelm hits, the ego steps into the relationship and takes over and then the honeymoon ends very abruptly. Every possible fear or doubt or problem you can find with the connection you do.

And this is when you separate and then go and work out your shit. And then it becomes a dance. You are drawn to each other and you get the new lesson, then you separate again. And there is this bizarre attraction and repulsion that occurs, like magnets turning, drawn to each other, then pushed away from each other.

And so it continues until egos are dissolved completely and the deepest healing imaginable occurs in each individual twin.

Once complete healing has occurred for both twins, then union is the order of the day. Then the real work can start and the twin flames combined are a force of love and light to heal the world.

Bada bing bada boom…. Or not…

That ego dissolving work is one tough bitch I tell you. The separation even has a term, it’s called running. So the runner chaser dynamic is born.  

It is lifetimes of work that needs to happen there. It is a lifetime of being small and insignificant which needs to vanish. It is about finding a never ending well of love inside yourself which must overflow and pour endless, abundant, unconditional love onto the world.

That is a tough journey. A beautiful, rewarding journey for those brave enough to embark on it though.

Everything from the ego will keep the twins apart. And each twin is a mirror for the other. Just like all relationships I guess, but amplified.

“My perception of you is a reflection of me, my reaction to you is an awareness of me” sums it up very very well.

You will trigger every wound in each other for healing. It a most remarkable and very interesting and very painful thing. But you are only ever responsible for your part of the relationship.

The only thing that your twin is meant to do for you in this time is trigger healing. So with every pain you feel, you need to learn to surrender to it and be open to the lesson it is teaching you.

Be open to the healing that it is bringing and the release of old patterns and programmes. In every pain you need to honor your soul and learn to live from the heart. It is an ongoing lesson of surrender and self love.

The twin flame journey is a very hard one to get your head around. It has so much beautiful purpose, but the path there is radical.

Just by twin flames meeting the healing is activated, the Universe has put the two of you together to start putting its plan for you into action.

If you resist the path then your life becomes more chaotic that you can imagine. There will be one upset and hardship after the other until you take heed to the call of the Universe and start working on yourself and healing. Twin flames have a duty to perform and they have chosen this journey and to be of service, but that is easy to forget when you are living in a 3D body.

The whole life of twin flames is an initiation into what the Universe needs you to be and who you need to be in order to be the deepest, most powerful healer. Nothing that occurs in their lives is by accident or because they are victims of circumstance.

It is because they have needed to learn the lessons to be of service to others. They have need to experience things so that they can have compassion for others.

They have had to move beyond their pain and their darkness to live in their light and therefore be able to shine this light on others. They are here to be examples of unconditional love and forgiveness. The norms do not apply to these people they are the souls that overcome. They are the warriors of the soul.

I hope that this post is useful. If you have any questions or if I have not covered something you would like to know please leave comments below.

Wish you nothing but love and light!
Twin Flame Healing
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THE HEALING DANCE OF TWIN FLAMES

"Healing is not an overnight process, it is a daily cleansing of pain, it is a daily healing of your life."

When you discover that you are a twin flame it is so easy to get sucked into the 3D paradigm of a romantic relationship.

But the truth of the connection is that it is about healing yourself to a very deep level. You are awakening to a consciousness and shifting into a higher dimension. Your focus needs to be on dissolving your ego and attaining unconditional love. 

The purpose of your healing is for light work. The purpose of your union with your twin is light work. 

When we resist the essence of the connection we are fighting the Universe because we get fixated on a 3D union and then get stuck in our ego and the journey becomes very uncomfortable, even unbearable.

Discovering that you are a twin flame uncovers your destiny and your purpose....and that is that you are a healing vessel for the divine....

I have come to realise that I have a dance with my twin. I feel a draw to him and then I contact him. Then we have a bit of communication and then I am triggered about an old wound and then I don't feel like I want to be in contact anymore and so I pull away and deal with my trigger.

I know that I have to release past pain. Twin flames all tend to have lived through a lot of trauma in their lives and the beauty of our twins is that they show us all the time where we still need to heal, shift and let go.

Our twin exposes our ego to us so perfectly, so beautifully and in my case so gently.

I see it as a healing dance. My twin said he sees it like we pre decided the way we would help each other heal and learn.

The most important thing to remember is that when you are triggered it has nothing to do with your twin and everything to do with you! You are only reacting because of your past.

This is a very deep spiritual journey and all 3D paradigms need to be removed in order for you to fulfill your destiny.

Self awareness is key! If you are not with your twin it is because you both need to heal. If you think it is because your twin needs to heal, then I can honestly say that it is because you need to heal!

It is so easy for us to point out the faults in another and shift the blame and not take responsibility for ourselves. The truth is that it is ALWAYS about you!

Learn to heal your soul and master your self and you will attain inner freedom and this is what the Universe is calling you to do. But you have freedom of choice as to when you want to undertake the journey into the center of yourself.

I love my twin for the way he triggers me! I am always amazed at the perfection of how it opens up the wounds for me to cleanse.

My philosophy is that I take care of my healing and the Universe takes care of my twins. I trust that the Universe knows what it is doing and it is in control of this union, not me.

Wishing you nothing but clarity and love on your journey.

Twin Flame Healing

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