TWIN FLAMES - SETTING HEALTHY BOUNDARIES AND NEW TEMPLATES FOR YOURSELF!

"Sometimes I don't know where you end and I begin."

Part of the twin flame experience is breaking through abusive patterns and setting new healthy loving templates for yourself.

Your twin is by no means here to abuse you or repeat past abusive patterns. Your twin is here to show you where you need to shift and heal from past abuse so that you can stop the cycle of it in your life permanently.

Self love comes in many different forms like standing up for yourself,respecting yourself and setting healthy boundaries.

Before you can start setting new boundaries for yourself, you have to know what you want. This is lovely and exciting because you are essentially laying the map for a new you and a new life. This is the template. 

Setting boundaries and having self respect doesn't come easy or naturally for everybody. I have really battled with this my whole life because I was always squashed down and bullied by the people closest to me.

Within the twin flame dynamic, I think that we can get very confused because of the spiritual nature of the connection. It is easy to misunderstand the 3D connection and then "put up" with buckets of shit because of the love you feel. 

I have to make sense of everything for myself. I know without doubt that I absolutely and completely love my twin. BUT I don't like the way he treats me in the 3D world. 

My twin and I have very different ideas on how to treat people that we care about in 3D. This by no means makes me love my twin any less, because I don't. But it does make me realise that how he treats me is not nice and I deserve so much more. It makes me realise that I have a choice to endure it or move away from it.

How do you change this??? 

First of all establish why you allow yourself to be treated badly by your twin or anyone else for that matter. It is important to get to the root of the problem, because this will be a programme that you have had since childhood. Figure out how the programme got there. Visit the pain attached and ask for divine guidance to release it and change the pattern of abuse.

Second, decide how you want to be treated by your twin and others. You have a choice to not be treated like shit. You have the power within you to set the bar for how people treat you. You are a divine being of God and you deserve to be treated with all the love and respect that comes with being that.

Third,stop accepting disrespectful behavior towards yourself by being honest with yourself and who ever is treating you badly. Walk away, stop feeding the fire of bad behavior by tolerating it or making excuses for it. You can communicate your feelings but don't expect anything back from anyone. People are who they are, they have to want to change themselves. Don't make the mistake of assuming that someone will change and then place your happiness on that, because that is just a disaster waiting to happen. 

Be strong and act in spite of fear, because standing up for yourself can be really scary! But it needs to be done in order for change to occur in your life. It is the only way to set new templates.

This is a very scary thing for some twins because they fear that they will lose their twin if they set boundaries. They fear rejection and they fear abandonment. 

If you are a true twin flame, you can NEVER lose your twin, EVER!!! You are bound to each other for eternity, so if you go through a patch of separation in 3D it is not the end of the world. Separation is just an illusion. When you and your twin are ready, the Universe will always draw you to each other again and again. Nothing is permanent. 

When we don't love ourselves completely all we do is land up in dysfunctional romantic relationships, and if we don't love our selves and try and be in a relationship with our twin flame, it will also just be dysfunctional. Being all that you can be to yourself is a much more realistic goal for happiness than needing a partner to be happy.

*I do want to make note that not all have to walk away. Some people are open to working things out and some couples can and will work it out. You have to make decisions based on your unique situation. 

Sending all enormous love!

Twin Flame Healing

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TWIN FLAMES - HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOU ARE BEING TRIGGERED AND WHAT IS A TRIGGER AND HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH IT.

"A trigger reaction is your fastest learning and releasing from the past tool you have!"

A trigger is a "negative" reaction that we have to something that has happened in our life. 

A trigger can be caused by a smell, a sound, a song, a dream, an emotion, someone elses behaviour, an innocent remark. You name it and it can cause a trigger in us.

You know when you are triggered when you are acting from ego and or in emotional turmoil and not seeing things clearly. 

You can blame others for what you are feeling and experiencing and then stay stuck, because you will be triggered again and again and again until you get the lesson or go to the source of the pain and release it.

Our twin flames are the best most magnificent triggers for us on the planet!!! They will show us our shit, over and over again until we go inside and weed it out!

Check out this 5 minute video on triggers and twin flames elaborating on the above.

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Sending all nothing but love, clarity, strength and peace on their journey.

Twin flame Healing

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TWIN FLAMES - HOW SHOULD THE CHASER HANDLE THE RUNNER

"Follow your soul, it knows the way"

It seems that there are a lot of twin flame chasers and waiters who are confused about how they should be handling the separation phase.

I have been asked by a few if it is ok to be in another relationship during separation.

I believe that it is something that only you can answer, as to whether or not it is the right thing to get involved with someone else.

I believe that there is no such thing as a mistake in this life. Absolutely everything happens for a reason!!

Depending on where you are on your twin flame journey and most importantly on the journey with yourself, this is what will determine the answer.

Some of you might feel really comfortable with the idea of getting involved with someone other than your twin flame and if you are comfortable with it, and it feels right, then trust your intuition and make a decision based on your own guidance.

Some twin flames still have karmic soul contracts which need to be fulfilled before they reach union with their twin. These soul contracts are there to teach us and prepare us for our twin. So again, I think this is a decision that each individual needs to make for them self.

The twin flame journey doesn't come with a one size fits all manual. As much as we have in common with our experiences, this does not dictate that we all should be handling things the same way.

We each have a very unique path to healing and only your own soul knows the way!!

Twin flames are here to raise their frequency to one of pure unconditional love and how they get there is not a clear cut path.

Other twins feel guilty towards their twin at the thought of being with someone else. Some feel like they are not acting from a space of integrity towards someone who they get involved with because they only have their twin in their heart. 

Some have a very "handy" ego switch which allows them to switch off from their twin and just live life as if their twin doesn't even exist. (I do believe that the Universe does give them constant subtle reminders, but they choose to look in the other direction until they are willing to start healing.)

There are so many different scenarios! So it really does boil down to you knowing yourself. Can you live with it? Does it feel right? Is it exciting and a soul calling to someone else? Do you feel a karmic connection that you want to explore?

As much as you and your twin share a soul, you are by no means bound to them for the rest of your life in this 3D reality. You are not compelled to live a half hearted life if you feel that you and your twin are not making progress to union, and you are not sure that union is what you are wanting. You always have a choice in how you want to live your life.

I do want to make special note though of a couple of things which I think should be considered:

1) Having sex with someone gives you energetic ties to them, called cords. This is by no means something to take lightly. You are energetically connected to this person and you feed each other energy, which can come and usually does come with a huge amount of baggage. Unless you are someone who knows how to cut cords, (but then if you are, you will be conscious of the sacred act of sex and know that it is not just a physical means to an end but a very powerful spiritual practice and that you are giving a part of yourself to another and vice versa) I would seriously think twice before just sleeping with someone, because there are spiritual repercussions that need to be considered. The twin flame journey is one of self love and self respect, so make sure that you are aligned with your higher good when making the decision to take on a sexual partner.

2) Are you acting from a space of integrity if you choose to pursue a relationship with someone other than your twin? Can you honestly say that you will love someone else with all the love that they deserve without compromising them or yourself in any way shape or form? Are you using someone to get back at your twin or have you genuinely fallen in love with someone who loves, values and appreciates you for all that you are? Be very honest with yourself because remember the twin flame journey is about getting rid of karma not wracking up a new bill! 

Personally I see this journey as one of deep healing and self love. I see every opportunity to grow and shift and release old belief patterns and karma and I embrace that fully.

Dissolving ego completely and being in union with source and therefore myself is the most important thing and my ultimate goal, so this is what I align with. 

I am beyond grateful that I am ascending to a 5D paradigm. Self mastery, soul healing, ultimate freedom from within. This is my trophy. Meeting my twin flame is bringing me to this, and I could not be where I am on my spiritual journey without having met him.  

I am learning to trust this process every single step of the way. The good, the bad and the ugly. However it shows up, I embrace it.

I am not going to purposefully go looking for someone in my life, but I believe that if source wants me to be in a relationship with someone other than my twin, then source will put this person in my path, it will fall into my lap so to speak and then I will not resist it, I will go with the flow.

So all in all I say follow your soul not your ego and you can't go wrong. BUT even if you do follow your ego there will be a lesson from it, because there are no such things as mistakes!

You can check out my short video on the above topic elaborated if you like.

Be happy, be self empowered, be aligned with your higher good always. Live your truth, be authentic and never compromise your soul. Trust your intuition and love yourself truly and deeply!

Twin Flame Healing

xxxx

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TWIN FLAMES - THE DIVINE FEMININE STEPPING INTO HER TRUE POWER

Just a short video on the divine feminine stepping into her personal power and taking control of the life she wants. 

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Sending all endless love

Twin Flame Healing

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THE UNBREAKABLE BOND OF TWIN FLAMES

"What God has joined together let no man put asunder."

If you are a true twin flame, there is absolutely nothing on this earth or in heaven that can disconnect the bond between you and your twin, and this includes you.

This is a journey out of ego and into soul. So it is a journey to pure unconditional love for yourself and your twin soul. In your souls truth you know that you and your twin belong together and you only love them. In your ego you think you have a choice and fight your souls truth, but ultimately draw the same conclusion as the truth that is in your soul. 

Unconditional love is not airy fairy. It is a tough thing to wrap an ego filled being around. And even more so when you have to start interpreting energy between you and your twin, not just what is blatantly in front of your eyes.

But I can assure you that no matter what dick move your twin flame pulls, you will eventually forgive them, you will still love them, you will still think about them all the time and you will still miss them so much it overwhelms you. Your ego can fight you till is is blue in the face, but truth in the soul is permanent.

You will always, always, always forgive your twin flame, and you will always, always, always love your twin flame!! Because you love them unconditionally!!! Whether you want to or not, you do. 

I choose to just forgive my twin immediately, because I know that I am going to anyway and being pissed off with him just lowers my vibration and ultimately I am going to forgive him anyway, so I work on trusting my soul and loving myself so much that I let go of lower frequencies that don't serve me. (this is an ongoing practice, till it is mastered!!)

There are a few points to accept and surrender to in order to attain peace on the twin flame journey:

1) Your twin flame is your twin flame!!!!!!!! You can choose to doubt the connection all the time and keep questioning it from the ego's understanding of a relationship and need psychics and tarot to confirm that he or she is in fact your twin, BUT no matter how many outsiders do or don't tell you it makes no difference until you make peace with it inside your own soul. The longer you resist this truth, the longer you suffer. So surrender to the fact that your twin flame is your twin flame.

2) There is nothing you or any other person, being or frequency in heaven or on earth can do to break the bond!!!

Twin flames have a soul mission together, it is ordained by source and you are one!!!!! This person will be in your head always, you will always miss them, they are now apart of you and that is just all there is to it. The longer you resist this truth, the longer you suffer. So surrender to the truth that you are bonded to this person for eternity.

3) You love your twin unconditionally! You will forgive anything that your twin does and you will always love them. The longer you resist this truth, the longer you suffer. So surrender to the truth that you love your twin no matter what. 

4) You and your twin will be united! We need to always know and trust that we will be united with our twin. This needs to be a solid rooted truth in your being. BUT.....LET GO OF THE HOW!!!!! We really fuck up our happiness when we try and question the Universe and it's methods for union. It is not for us to control the how we get to union or what union will look like, that is the Universes detail, not ours!!! Live in this moment and trust that everything is happening EXACTLY as it is meant to be. There are no mistakes, even in separation and in every dick move you or your twin pulls!!! It is all perfect and part of the process, so don't fight it because it just keeps you and your twin separated for longer. The longer you resist this truth, the longer you will suffer. So surrender to the truth that you and your twin will unite.

The bond between true twin flames can not be broken. No matter how many people you sleep with, no matter how far away you travel, no matter how many drugs you take. NOTHING can break the bond not even death.

Once you have met your twin flame or had recognition, they reside in you forever. They are in your head and entwined in your being.

My theory is, surrender to it, because otherwise you are going to drive yourself mad, believing that it can be any different. 

I think that the only thing that we have freedom of choice over in the twin flame journey is our healing. We can choose to prolong it and ignore what we have to do to heal and in that way stay stuck in the runner chaser dynamic forever, (or as long as it takes us to wake up to our shit). 

Or we can choose to embrace our pain and triggers and go and sort our shit out so that we can get into union with this human who is never going to go away no matter what we do.

The wiser, braver choice is definitely to sort your shit out right?

So be brave and take the journey into yourself and fall in love with yourself and surrender to the truth of your soul!

Love yourself and trust your journey!

Wishing all strength to stand in your truth and be in love with yourself!

Twin Flame Healing

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WHY DOES MY TWIN FLAME RUN FROM ME?

"The harder you push me, the further I will go."

This is a post that I have asked my divine masculine (DM) to please help me out with so that I can give the DM perspective on the effect it has on them when we divine feminine (DF) push them.

I have come across a lot of twin flames that are stuck in the runner chaser dynamic after the recognition and bubble love phase ends.

It is easy to get stuck in this runner chaser dynamic, when we are stuck in our 3rd dimensional (3D) view on relationships.

Yes you have just met the most important person in the world to you and you want to hold onto that with all of our might. And live happily ever after like you would in any other normal relationship.

Yes you have just learned that you share a soul with another and you treat the other as if the they are you and belong to you, because of the initial bond.

Having this response is normal because you want to treat this connection like it is any other 3D connection that you have ever had.  

But you can't, because this is not the nature of a twin flame connection. Your connection is divine and of a very, very high frequency which rids and repels any low vibration from it.

When crisis hits after the bubble love phase it is because it is time to get cracking on your healing so that you can get rid of all of your lower frequencies so that you can be in union with your twin at the high frequency that your connection is.

The DF wants to keep reliving the bubble love phase when crisis has hit and healing needs to start. In doing this she is just prolonging the journey to union.

Both twins are triggered at this point of crisis. Both egos kick in and then separation occurs while you both should be dealing with your triggers and your pain and releasing old karma.

I have come to notice that in certain twin flame couples the DF seems to inundate the DM with questions and information and neediness, like she expects him to help her make sense of what she is going through or like she feels like she has to heal the DM and wake him up.

Co dependency patterns seem to kick in to the max here and the DF is trying to relive the glory days of the bubble love but is in turmoil and the turmoil repels the connection, and so the DM retreats. 

It needs to be understood that separation and the DM going into "passive retreat" or withdrawing from any deep contact is part of the soul contract in order to trigger healing. Just as the DF pushing at him to be all she wants him to be in that moment is triggering the hell out of the DM. 

The DM is giving energetically to the DF the opposite of how she is reacting. They reacting as polar opposites hence energetically creating balance to the mayhem.

The harder the DF pushes, the more passive the DM will become.

I also mean energetically!!! If the DF is energetically bombarding the DM he will pick it up the same way, because your twin responds to your energy! So even if you have stopped in 3D with asking and messaging, if you are still feeling it and thinking it, your twin is picking it up and stepping into the fog.

The DF needs to learn to be in the present moment and she needs to learn to stand in her own power and let go of the control on thinking that she has all the answers to their union and that she needs to help the DM to heal.

So ultimately when the DF pushes the DM she is pushing him away. She is turning him into an elusive butterfly that she is never going to catch because he is just backing off into the fog.

We know that it feels impossible to back off, but it is the only way you are going to strike harmony again between the two of you. Step into your own power and stop trying to take away the DM's power by thinking that he can't or won't heal himself.

If you can rather focus all that energy onto your own healing and trust that your DM is very, very capable of taking care of his own healing and awakening, you will get into a harmonious connection with your twin again much sooner rather than later. 

Wishing you abundant clarity and strength!

Twin Flame Healing

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THE REASON WHY TWIN FLAMES TRIGGER EACH OTHER

"Sometimes you just have to die a little inside in order to be reborn and rise again as a stronger and wiser version of yourself."

There are absolutely no mistakes in this world. 

EVERYTHING happens for a good reason and for your higher good. 

We grow and learn through adversity, and your twin flame is your biggest and best teacher that you will ever encounter in this life.

In order for twin flames to be in union, they have to shed their ego, and in shedding their ego they will be listening to their soul, and will be fully healing their soul and in healing their soul and shedding ego, they will be attaining the true and divine unconditional love which brings the twins into union.

This is by no means an easy task when it is not understood properly. 

When our twin does something and we have an ego reaction, ie: we feel hurt, offended, upset, angry, sad, rejected, abandoned... whatever our reaction is, it is because we have not healed a part of ourselves and our twin is very perfectly directing us to our healing. 

This is called a trigger. We are triggered when we are not grounded in our truth and are therefore in our ego.

A trigger has NOTHING to do with your twin and EVERYTHING to do with you.

Your twin only loves you, and your twin has not accumulated negative karma with you. What pain you feel is from elsewhere and that root needs to be uplifted not pushed onto your twin to make them responsible.

Blaming your twin for your pain is counter productive and all it will do is keep you in separation for longer. Your twin is there to help you heal yourself, not to do the job for you. They point you in the direction of your healing over and over again.

A trigger from your twin, is seriously the biggest blessing you can get, because each trigger that is dealt with and healed is a step closer to your inner freedom. 

To blame your twin for your past, will only push them further away from you and close them up, because they are here to first and foremost to be the catalyst to heal you and you are of course here to do the same for them.

My twin has had such a deep way of so easily and gently uprooting my deepest pain and cleansing these old wounds so that I can be whole and healed. 

I have come to embrace the lessons, healing and release from the triggers because it lets go of suffering for me and takes me one step further away from my ego and one step closer to self mastery. 

I am always amazed at how easily I have been triggered by my twin, when he really and truly does pretty much nothing. 

But something will go down and the next thing I am sucked down a wormhole of my past where I can see where the pain I am feeling was birthed, it is truly mind blowing!

You are not a victim when you are triggered and your twin is not responsible for the pain of your past.

Respect your twin enough to not make them your punching bag and appreciate them for the way they so innocently can trigger such deep pain to be released from you if you only allow it to.

The triggers are ONLY for your good! Be grateful that you have somebody who loves you so much that they have agreed to trigger healing to every part of your being!

What a blessing and a gift! 

Wishing you nothing but strength, clarity and endless love on your journey!

Twin Flame Healing

xxx

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